Happiness

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We are as happy as we choose to be. No more and no less.

We can think of happiness as something that spontaneously arises in our lives from time to time or as an end post we reach after life’s great trials ad tribulations have taken their toll, but it is not until we open to the idea that ‘happiness is a choice that we can all experience at any moment’ that we will source the flow of an abundance of this glowing warming feeling into our lives.

Make happiness a priority and feel good from moment to moment. How often do you enter a situation in full awareness that you are responsible for how you feel? Do you allow circumstance to decide or do you take charge? It is easy to forget, and we all do, that happiness is at our disposal all the time! We get caught up in life’s dramas and events that we mask that which we all need and are truly searching for. It is indeed the one who wears rosy glasses that sees the beauty, the joy, the greatness and the happiness in everything. We can choose to see what we want to. We can choose to be happy. We each have a pair of rosy glasses, we just don’t always put them on.

Happiness is available to us all, in every moment. It is up to us as individuals to claim happiness and to live it and dance it’s song. From the second we get out of bed in the morning we can choose happiness, in all of our actions, words and motivations. Just as on our birthdays or Christmas day we choose to experience rushes of excitement and tingly sensations within which carry us through our day, we can do this day in day out. It just takes an awareness of how we choose to feel.

We often spend too much time wasting opportunities, moments and experiences. We carry blame, judgment, non-forgiveness, criticism and hurt around with us. But where does this get us? Further away from happiness and further bogged down into an unnecessary state of no return. We need to create bridges towards peace and happiness, to freedom. We need to start living to our fullest potential and sing happiness to the treetops! And to do so we must dissolve the things that keep us stuck and distant. Life is too short not to be happy.

Sure, still choose wisely your environment, circle of friends, hobbies, partners and what you fill your life with. I am by no means suggesting that you choose to be happy but neglect your wheel of life. Positively change the things that you can and choose happiness in those you can ‘and’ can’t change. We all have certain things that we can’t change, that just are – whether it be our past, families, genetics or the way others treat us – but it is down to us to nurture acceptance for these. To react in a positive and healing way and to make the most of everything in the best way we can. Why make a situation worse than it is by being unhappy? We can all turn any situation around for the better and call it one of life’s lessons.

What lies in the way between you and continuous happiness? Rid any excuses that you have. Put on your happiness coat right now, go outside and enjoy the light rain as it falls on you. Enjoy all weather! Marvel in it’s uniqueness! And apply this attitude to all things, big and small. Smile more, in fact right now. Give it a go. Be aware of your facial expressions, your body language. Look around you and see the beauty. See the heart in everyone, the brilliance in everything and know this is how things should be! We are experiencing the real uncovered us when we feel fuzzy inside.

So instead of seeking ways to justify unhappiness or complacency with life, find reasons to be happy. When you meet up with your friend today or tomorrow make an intention to only speak words of kindness and positivity. Give moaning, complaining and negativity no room, no purpose. Make a list of all the things that you are grateful for in your life. Sit back and be amazed by how many you can come up with. Make today a happy day! Do the things that help bring about happy thoughts and encourage this warming glow.

How do you currently live happiness? To the maximum or with great interludes? Start to bring happiness to the forefront of your minds, your actions and your motivations. Experience feeling happy in all situations, from brushing your teeth to writing a letter to meeting up with family. Think carefully about how you are feeling and how you could influence happiness inside yourself and all around you.

Our world needs more happy people. Choose happiness now.

The Calmest Possible Option

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Recently I’ve learnt a new technique that I’m wholeheartedly applying to my life. I feel so happy and grateful for this and welcome it with open arms! Thanks to this discovery, I am currently processing great change in myself and my surroundings. I feel a positive shift within me, a sense of spaciousness forming, new energy being released and peacefulness arising. This is definitely a direction I want to go in!

My new and embraced technique I call ‘the Calmest Possible Option’. Simply because that is what it is. No matter what the situation is, how I am feeling, my environment or any of its involvement, I choose the Calmest Possible Option available to me. In exploring this technique I am already noticing that there is an abundance of options available to me and my once closed vision is widening.

In using an example of anger, if I feel angry in the presence of someone, perhaps it is something they say, instead of reacting immediately, impulsively, which was my default response and often led me somewhere lacking resolution or joy and to a great deal of counterbalancing actions, I now have a handy tool up my sleeve. This tool being a conscious and active choice of calmness. I choose peace. I throw in the towel of emotional bursts, flashes of rage, vicious words and backlash and I choose peace.

So there I am feeling angry, my body trembling, a rush of fury inside my belly and I take time to still myself. I detach myself, remove myself away from what is happening and I come to my breath. This may involve me physically taking myself out of the room or place that I am in, or by staying put but altering my focus, either way drawing in on my breath, a powerful force. I count around five deep breaths consciously slowing it down to a steady pace. This process allows me to immediately feel more calm and steady. It also gives me time and space to feel a gentle change taking place within me. I then in that moment recognise that I am in control of my actions, my choices, my words and I am able to choose my next step. A step that will soon become my past.

I can’t fully comprehend where this new awakening came from, but I can say that the timing is perfect. I had been feeling somewhat out of balance, uncertain and fearful of things around me, as though I had no say in the unfolding of my life. Such feelings are now being pushed out of me, as calmness sets in. I am experiencing feelings of freedom and strength as I choose how my behaviour and actions progress.

It is not an easy method to set in motion. Although it involves peace, quietness and time for reflection, it can be very difficult to detach yourself from a situation, a scene in the making and choose differently. It can be difficult to alter your reactions, your responses, the default mode you have set it place. And it can be difficult to let go of justification for emotional outbursts and cries of pain. But it is without a doubt an incredible tool to uncover, to recognise and to embrace.

I have been enjoying the recent process of putting the Calmest Possible Option into play. Just today I actually noted the exact moment I caught myself in an oncoming angry bolt. I felt my fierce emotions, the fire within my belly and something told me to step away, and so I did. In that moment where in the past I would feel uncontrollable, throwing judgments and losing my energy to a point of exhaustion, I chose otherwise, I told a different story. I choose peace. I thereby kept my energy reserves, put a new story into action and did something I didn’t previously know I had control of.

The Calmest Possible Option is not only something that you can apply in angry situations. You can choose to step away from moments of any kinds, such as sadness, over excitement, fear, worry, greed or even happiness. And you can decide to take a different step on your journey and create new behaviour patterns.

Sometimes we think that we just have to act in certain ways, that there is a justification for all that we do, and we’ll go on justifying this until we’re sick and tired of it. But this is not the case! We do not have to act in any such ways, we can choose what we do next.

It is an incredible vision if we think about what we would be saving in our lives if we just took time to think in the present moments we are in. We can save energy and time and friendship if we notice our current stories that we are playing in our lives. We often become so absorbed in what we are doing that we forget that we have choice, that we are choosing every way in which we move. We get ourselves in such states when we could in fact avoid them and have more peaceful times. We can change the dynamic of our relationships, our thoughts and create such healthy minds.

Are you choosing the Calmest Possible Option in the things that you do or say? Or are you setting things is motion for a Storm?

Choose peace. Choose calm without a storm.

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Day One

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I love beginnings. I love mornings, Mondays, the first day of each month, welcoming a new season, a new term and of course the New Year! I love January more than anything! There is such a crispness to it! I see clear space, a white open path and great possibility. I feel so incredibly free and inspired at the start of a New Year and so excited to create and set out on my chosen journey!

It is a perfect time to reevaluate, rechoose and recreate yourself at the start of something. You can step back form your life as it is and decide what you want to keep and what is best to discard. A wonderful opportunity for new healthy ideas to emerge!

Beginnings of time are so exciting for me that it seemed so clear to make them even more of a regularity. Why put such happiness, proactivity and creativity on hold til Monday or the New Year when I could wake up to these feelings everyday?

Such feelings sparked the creation of Day One’s, changing my life brilliantly. A new beginning each new day, everyday! I am currently living a Day One. Yesterday was Day One and tomorrow will be too.

Day One is a chance to start over, a fresh space, a clear white page, the beginning of new time. I can do whatever I choose to do with this new day, paint any picture that I like. I am the creator, the painter!

Day One is a daily January Monday morning! In perceiving every day this way I am creating new vision. I see clearly the immediacy of my actions, my choices and my true purpose. I do not have to wait until the New Year to be truly alive to the beauty and opportunity all around me. I am extending my happiness to fill every moment! ‘Day One has arrived’ I say! ‘Yipee!.’ Back to the drawing board I run with youth and collect my colourful pens to begin my day!

By thinking this way, treating each day as a first, I keep myself in the present. Only now is important and the choices that I make for present time. Yesterday has no significance, only acting as a lesson, a backdrop. Day One has started and I can decide to be whoever I choose. Do, act, say whatever I choose for time has allowed me this space here. Everything else melts away.

Who you are is decided by what you do in the present. If you choose to be healthy right this moment then that is who you are.

We can all make Day One’s and live every new day with radiant new eyes, from a different angle. We can decide how best to make the most of fresh time.

No matter how you have lived, how you have chosen before, the healthy you is asking for attention and care right now. Take yourself gently by the hand, set a clear intention and step into true health. Let us all together Wake Up to the sunshine of Day One.

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