It’s Not Always Easy

Every morning we wake up with a huge grin on our face. We spring out of bed, full of energy and enthusiasm for the day, and draw back the curtains, allowing the rays of sunshine to penetrate through. “Ahhh’ we let out a gentle sigh of appreciation, thinking of all the things we are so grateful for in our lives. “What a beautiful morning. I feel so alive, so happy to be here and so excited about today!” After a delicious breakfast, enjoyed with the one we love, in the peace and quiet of our budding garden, we skip off to work. From here, our day unfolds magnificently…
We feel the hearts and kindness of strangers we meet, and lap up all the meaningful conversations we exchange. We pat ourselves on the back when our boss congratulates us on all our hard work (even though we really don’t feel like it’s work at all) and beam when he says it’s a delight to have us as part of the team. Our full lunch hour is spent in tranquillity, in the nearby park. We sit back by the glistening lake, feeling the sun warm our face, listening to the sounds of the birds, and indulging in our favourite home-made sandwich. In the same fashion, our day continues to flow with ease and joy. We’re out of work by 5pm, and able to meander along to the yoga studio for an invigorating practice. To then come home to a delightful veggie dinner offered to us by our partner. No worries, no moans to be had. We’re not even the one to wash up! Bed-time comes at the perfect moment, just before 10pm. We cosy up under the covers and think “I so look forward to waking up tomorrow.”

What a wonderful world we’d live in if this were our experience, day-in, day-out. Ease, flow and peacefulness, maxed up to the brim. Nothing to worry about, nothing to fear and nothing made hard for us. An easy life, and path of happiness…

But is this really what we’re after? Does this ‘ideal’ even exist? Can things come so easily to us, and leave us so content and fulfilled? I’m not so sure they can. And I don’t believe this is really what we’re after.

Bring down a glorious image of what life can be is not what I want to do. I think that our lives are out there for the taking, the making, and the creating. They can be filled with beautiful moments, shared with outstanding people and lived truly to the full of our hearts desire. But, at the same time, and from my experience, we need to see all the colours of the rainbow. And the truth is: It’s Not Always Easy.

During the last few weeks on my school placement, I experienced a challenging time, a ‘tough period’. I certainly wasn’t waking up to sunshine beaming in at me every day, or feeling energised or like I had moments to spare for meandering through parks. No, quite the opposite. In fact on some days, I barely spent any time out in nature. I was too busy waking at the crack of dawn (at 4am on several occasions) to do my planning, feeling waves of anxiety about the days ahead and whether my lessons would be any good. I was feeling very tired during the day, trying to find my feet and make the most of the experience. My yoga and running schedule deteriorated, and pretty much went out of the window on the last week. I found myself opting for moments of relaxation and sleep, instead of exercise. I tried to establish a good work/life balance, I tried to make time for things I know are important for my well-being, I tried to do the best job I could on my school placement and I desperately tried to get myself back on ‘top form.’

And it was during all this ‘trying’, that I learnt a very important message: to ‘let go’, and just flow with my experience. I learnt to slow down, take things gently and not worry about having to be ‘on top’ all the time. “It’s alright to experience things differently, to come across bumps in the road, and to spend time in the valley, rather than at the peak of the mountain.” I listened to these words I heard from within me. I listened to the cues and prompts from my body, like when it said “lay off a run today and take some time to lie low and rest”, “go out and enjoy today, with no worries of it being the ‘best day’”, and a third one, which I think is really important: “life is not always easy, and that’s OK.”

We can learn from every experience, every ‘bad day’ and every difficult moment.

Breathe It Away

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“Just Breathe It Away” are the wise words once uttered to me.

And which I’ll never forget. They’ve stayed with me since and have brought me great freedom from life’s difficult times.

The truth is there are going to be difficult times on your life’s journey. Moments of unease, frustration, anger, fear, weakness or pain.

But it’s up to you to choose your response, your approach to whatever’s thrown your way.

You can let things consume you, get at you, aggravate you, have power over you. Or you can choose to Breathe It Away and thereby release yourself from any hold.

The breath is a very powerful tool, that we are all so fortunate to have. At your beckon call it comes forth, in any state that you so ask for.

Allow the breath to guide you, steer you, strengthen you, free you.

You won’t always have the security, the comfort, the peace of being under your covers, wrapped in your blanket, on your meditation cushion or under the dimmed and assuring lights of your yoga class. Sometimes you have to face the music – directly.

So say you’re sitting opposite someone and they say something that gets your back up, that annoying or ridiculous thing they’ve said before and you just know they’ll say again! “How dare they!” When they know how much it upsets or annoys you why are they doing it? Why aren’t they changing?” Or you see something that makes you see red, you hear something that makes your heart sink, your stomach churn. And you feel like there is nowhere to run, nowhere to hide. “No escape” you say. “I just can’t cope, I’m just so argh right now, my heart is thumping uncontrollably and I need to shout out!” “I need to leave this space. I need to go back to my room, shut the door and stay under my covers, until they change.”

And this is perfectly natural. As human beings, you will feel things, experience different emotions, be ruffled in different ways.

But another truth for you, which may seem shocking: They don’t need to change. They simply are, it simply is this way. You need to change.

You can only ever work on yourself.

So when you feel so strongly in such a way that it causes you pain. Bring it back to you – see the effect, the unhealthiness this is creating for you. Know that it is time for a new response. You can change the cycle, start afresh!

Start by surrendering to your powerlessness. You don’t need to deny how you feel – feelings will change in time with new habits – you just need to bring acceptance to where you are right now and learn to feel your breath.

Breathe It Away. Breathe It Away.
Wherever you are, whatever the difficult situation bring a conscious awareness to your breathing, slow it down and count to 10. And just stay present. You don’t need to escape.

In doing so you will find new answers, new meaning, new responses and new guidance you may not have known could exist.

Try it – Breathe It Away – and find your release.

Come Rain or Shine!

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A positive attitude is what lights up the sky!

One that says ‘whatever the weather, I am happy’, ‘whatever the weather, I choose peace today’ , ‘whatever the weather, I’m having a great day!’.

Such an attitude does not depend on ‘good’ weather, things to be going one way or another, other people’s reactions or any outside occurrence.

A positive perspective is an inside job – one that everyone can benefit from having. And the domino effect it has is incredible! See your smile appear on the faces of others!

On too many occasions, you put your happiness on standby because of the way you see things and the way you want things to be. From the very moment you look out of your window in the morning you decide what feeling you’re going to take around with you through the course of your day. How many times have you said ‘Oh no it’s raining!, how awful, it’s going to be a dreary day’ A dreary day you ask for, a dreary day you shall get! And blame it on the weather you may, but do you really think the weather deserves a pointing finger?

What is it that makes rain so miserable and sunshine cheery? The answer is, you do.

Because the truth is the weather brings neither happiness nor sorrow. This meaning you attach to it is to suit you, to excuse you, to keep you firmly fixed in a blanket of edgy comfort.

But now is the time to throw the comfort blanket down! Because it’s smoldering your perspective. Take responsibility for your days, your moods and claim back your happiness – come rain or shine!

Choose to have a spring in your step no matter what the circumstances be! Imagine all the fun and exciting things you could be doing and feeling if you made a decision to love each moment, whatever the weather…

So next time you look out of the window at a grey cloud or feel a splatter on your raincoat, take a second to adopt your positive attitude, put a smile back on your face and jump joyfully in the closest puddle! And in doing so, you will inspire others to do the same!

Find happiness in all weather. Create puddles of joy. And take this healthy attitude with you through life.

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