Good Habits

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Good Habits make a Good Life!

When your habits are good, you feel better, you have more energy, you see positive effects from the things you do, you have much more time available to do more of the things you love and the world just seems to work so much better!

Good Habits are not something just a percentage of us can have – they are out there for the taking by each and everyone!

The sooner you start to pay attention to your habits, the quicker life will brighten up. You will begin to notice that the world doesn’t happen ‘to you’, but that you get to choose your circumstances, make your mark and reach for the top! And there’s no time better to do so than the present moment!

Have a think about your current daily habits. How do you feel about them? Do you feel they are contributing to your life, your goals, your dreams in a positive way? Or do you feel led by circumstances, driven by a ‘fixed’ behavioural pattern or unhappy with how things are unfolding?

Often we mistake our habits for our ’selves’. We think that the things we repeatedly do are indicators of our personalities, genes and make-up. Inescapable, unavoidable. ‘It’s just the way I am’ you may hear yourself say. But this is not the case. Habits can be cast away, changed and created! There is nothing set in stone about the way you are from moment to moment. You can change the script at any time you like….

So be courageous, bring an active mind and create Good Habits today! Here are some examples to get you started! -

- Getting up early and having a slow morning pace, bringing a calm, clear focus for the day. 10-30 minutes exercises will give you an extra boost too!
- Spending 10 or 15 minutes each morning setting a positive intention for your day, identifying a source of motivation to keep you energised and on track and planning your daily doings.
- Having a healthy breakfast – a wonderful source of energy first thing that sets you off well!
- Planning your daily exercise/fitness early on, writing it in your diary and keeping to this important appointment with yourself! (You can look to your source of motivation to spark your thirst for this.)
- Making and setting goals and dreams that you can work towards and which provide a central meaning to your life.
- Arriving at appointments/meetings 10 minutes early – this will help you feel calm, settled and on top of things, whilst also not letting yourself or anyone else down!
- Choosing 3 positive things to do or say daily to loved ones, colleagues or strangers!
– Acting and living by your principles, values and what means dear to you.
- Making healthy food choices throughout your day – by staying fully aware and responsible for what you fuel yourself on.
- Being outdoors in the fresh air each day and lapping up the breeze!
- Having a phone chat/ meet up with someone you love spending time with – and who you leave feeling refreshed and happy.
- Choosing to use positive, meaningful words and language and dropping the rest that’s holding you back.
- Thinking positively about your career, the benefits you gain, aspects you love or perhaps considering an alternative occupation that’d suit you better.
- Keeping your room clear, tidy and organised – a clear surrounding space helps a clear and focused mind. Recycle or take to a charity shop anything that’s no longer of use to you – it may just well be of fantastic use to someone else!
- Creating a night-time routine – getting a good night’s seep, finishing off any lingering task from the day and thinking over everything that went positively whilst falling off to sleep.

Getting into the swing of nurturing good habits allows the best you to shine! You’ll feel forever satisfied and thankful for it.

Create some good habits today and reap the rewards they bring you….

See Her Beauty

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Loving, supportive and positive friendships are what make the world go round.

Relationships of this kind touch us so deeply and hold an irreplaceable contribution towards having a healthy life.

To open your eyes wide enough to see your friend for who she* truly is, her heart, her essence, her Being is to See Her Beauty.

To see the sparkle in her eye, her dreams, her kindness, her inner smile.

Sometimes we do not look deep enough, either by skimming the surface or staying in the shadows, to see what is eternally true: that royal beauty lies within each of us, so warm and loving – that needs recognition, understanding and nurturing to flourish.

You have choice in this world: you can seek and practice positive friendships based on love and compassion or you can quiet your beating heart.

You can See Her Beauty or you can not see your own.

I know what I choose. I care from my heart and see the many hearts around me. I see the beauty in every friendship I hold. I am thankful for every friend I have, for each inspires me with their individual spark. I hold my hands wide and bare in asking to be a part of their lives, their journeys, their joy.

Friendships are too precious to be understated, overlooked or misused. With every green eye, angry, resentful, complacent or fearful moment you take, you miss out so greatly on beauty so available, so unique.

Stay united with those of the same sex and opposite. There is no threat but any that you choose to create – so do without.

Form friendships of gold based on pure and unobstructed love, treating them as treasure so rare.

Just see how much beauty you can create in your own life and lives of others in an opening of your heart.

* I use ’she’ only as a personal example. I feel so blessed to have such amazing friendships with so many beautiful women. Please interchange ’she’ for ‘he’ as appropriate for you. :)

Letting Go

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Ahhh to feel truly relaxed, at peace and free. To have this feeling fill you up and flow through you. That is just a wonder.

Letting Go is all about setting yourself free, softening, finding solace, a place of comfort and being released from any discomfort.

It is a brilliant tool to use in bringing more and more happiness to you. As you begin to let go in different areas of your life, you become closer connected with your core, your essence. You relearn how to breathe deeply, see the hearts around you and spend moments of pure happiness with loved ones.

Letting Go is such a valuable skill to nurture. And one to keep close to you on your life’s journey. It is precious. For the process of gradual release allows you to unwind, untie and discard anything in you and your life which is in ravels, knots, piles and perhaps has been for some time, accumulating dust.

As you begin to let go, you can stand back and see before your eyes how the world can change and look so different. This new softer, calmer perspective allows your breath to lengthen, muscles to relax and the stars to brighten above you.

No longer do you need to hold on to any anger bubbling inside you, hate spitting out of you, resentment festering, regret lingering, greed all-consuming, frustration revving. The tightness constricting you can relax, old thoughts can be blown away and peace can set in.

How can you Let Go? When you’re holding on with all your might to a world you know so well and have habituated – How can you refresh the moment, untangling what you no longer need?

How can you find such peace and tranquility, a release from caught-up emotions? How can you see the sunlight again after it’s been hiding for so long behind that cloud?

Not always an easy process. Taking longer for some than others. But totally possible and definitely worth the effort.

For each of us, the ravels, knots and piles vary. The things you want to let go of in your life are different from your partners, friends and family. Letting Go is a personal journey. So you need to think carefully about what it is that you are holding on to that restricts you from being truly free and the best, healthiest version of yourself. What is it that’s wasting your energy, enthusiasm and potential?

Ways of Letting Go: Close any arguments that have been going on for countless time, no matter who’s fault you think it is. Forgive everyone, no matter how much hurt you feel. Lose all blame, taking full responsibility for yourself. Do not victimise yourself, this only wastes time. Know that happiness is an inside job, the answers aren’t ‘out there’. Be grateful for everything you have, little and large. Make friends with your supposed enemies, see them as innocent. Speak with loving words to yourself, harsh words feed the pain. Seek the things that bring you lasting joy, lose the things that weigh you down. Look on the positive side of life, lose negativity. Stop trying to please everyone, it’s not possible or worthwhile. Drop the habits which leave you feeling bad, see them as old.

Forgiveness, Self-Responsibility, Inner Happiness, Gratitude, Friendship, Kindness, Compassion – these are your keys to peace. And unless you unlock the doors, you may never see how different it can be.

Throughout the process of Letting Go stay close to your breath. Breathe in everything that you feel, good or bad. Use your breath to steady yourself, stay in the present moment and slow things down for you to see clearly what’s really happening.

Breathe in. Let Go. Breathe out.