The Best Year of My Life

It’s the Eve before Christmas, and as I look forward to celebrations to come, I can’t help but also look back over the past year at celebrations been and gone, and feel tremendous happiness. What a year I’ve had! Quite honestly, the best year of my life.

A stroke of luck? Far from it. You see, I pretty much decided on 2009 being the best year of my life at this very time last Christmas. In the words of Debbie Ford, my great source of inspiration, I dreamt it, planned it, and the only thing left was to live it.

If I scan back, a few things in particular stand out for me, in making this a year above the rest. For one, the very reality of this website wakeuptohealth. I finally got around to channelling my passion for healthy & positive living, somewhere where I can reach others. From a collection of ideas to a purposeful source, my intention precisely.
From here, I discovered my great love for writing and have seen several of my articles published in leading health magazines. On the career front, I followed my intuition in embarking on a primary teacher training course, and have embraced the friendships and rewards it has brought me so far. Most importantly, in myself I feel lighter, more balanced, free and at peace than ever before.

So, what prompted me to go out and make 2009 the best year yet? Why this time last year did I reach for Debbie Ford’s book The Best Year of Your Life?

It was the lead up to Christmas 2008 and I was staying in a London apartment. My friend was out of town and the pad was all mine, for two weeks! Fantastic, eh? Well, no, not when you’re feeling miserable. “I’ve hit rock bottom”, were the words I chose when my Mum called. Curled up on the sofa in a ball that evening, I texted my friends to cancel the dinner party I had so looked forward to hosting. “I’m really sorry, I feel rather down and I’m just not up to it.” There, I’d escaped an evening of crying on my friend’s shoulder. But, where from here?

At the real surface of it, I just wasn’t entirely satisfied with my life. Stress had accumulated over the preceding months, balance had been lost, and I didn’t know where I was headed. A great yearning for more meaning, focus and alignment was calling from within. And this was the perfect catalyst for what happened next.

Back at home and in need of something to boost me into a new direction, I picked up Debbie Ford. I’ve never read something so quickly and with such fixation. Every word seemed to jump out at me and strike a chord within. “Yes, this is what I want! I want to create great meaning to all of my days and sculpt the very life of my dreams.” Suddenly, it felt within reach, as though it were achievable. “Ahh”, the satisfaction in knowing this.

Since January, I’ve kept a Best Year of My Life diary, starting each entry with this phrase. My thoughts and words have therefore had a driver, an underlying focus, and brought me back in when I’ve drifted off. Perhaps not each day has been out of this world, but each has brought something with it; a learning, a wake up call, a new idea, a mirror, a base, an angle.

For me, this year is confirmation that we can make of each year exactly what we want to. As creators, we choose, we sculpt and we define. I plan on living each year with this in mind. I plan on living the best year of my life, every year. On defining to myself the exact kind of year I want to have, the attitudes I want to hold, the values I want to live by, the things I want to achieve, the people I want to know better and the me I want to be. And so that when I look back at the end of the year, I can feel happy with where I’ve travelled.

So, here I go into 2010 with the intention set, to make it the Best Year of My Life. Are you with me?

Your Special Haven

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Imagine having a special haven. A beautiful special place all to yourself that you can do, be, say whatever you so choose. You can make your mark here and stay here time after time. This space is yours for the taking, the making. You can dream up, design and create beauty all around you. The walls and floors are canvases just yearning for your individual contribution, your essence to hit. The colours, themes, light and spaces are yet to be defined. Nobody else can enter your haven without permission. Nobody has access to your domain, your dwelling, your sanctuary, your retreat. Only you have the key.

Your haven is a place for everything you have, you are. A space to rest, think, lie, sit, stretch, breathe, act, play, write, draw, make, create, see, dream, eat, drink, sleep and just be you. However you are feeling you can come here and take time away from the world, time for yourself. Whether you are feeling restful, thoughtful, fearful, bashful or wonderful your haven is like a blanket ready to warm you up and hold you still whilst you replenish yourself before it’s time to leave.

How your haven looks and feels is down to you. As is the support and nourishment it offers you. As the creator you have full choice in it’s identity. You are responsible for every single area surrounding you. If things in your haven are out of place, messy, cluttered, dirty or uncared for only you can restore it back to it’s ideal state. If in your special place you feel flat, uninspired, unbalanced, trapped or unclear only you can help change these feelings.

We each have a special haven, whether we have fully embraced it or not. Our bedroom is just this! Our very own personal room, our blanket, our nest. What we receive from it depends greatly or what we give to it. If we choose to love it and use it carefully we will surely reap the benefits. If we plant the right seeds our garden will grow!

I love my bedroom! And I love my own personal place. I take great pride in keeping my space clear and tidy so I can feel clarity and space within me. I know well how my environment affects me, what goes on on the outside matters on the inside. I choose colors that resonate with me, whites, blues, yellows and purples to keep me calm, cool and balanced. I choose simplicity for peace of mind. I am a minimalist which helps me focus on things individually and carefully, and in the present. I make sure that I have space for yoga, to breathe, stretch, be on the wall, and lie down. I allow as much light in as possible to aid my vision. These are my personal choices for my haven.

This morning I did something that I do several times a year. I rearranged all of the furniture in my haven. From the moment I woke up I knew it was time for change in my close environment. This Spring has been a time of great change for me. More and more I am feeling aligned with my true self, my core, my values. I am refining my attention to the things that matter to me most. And in this process I am experiencing a great shift within me. This morning I wanted to express my internal emotional change in my physical visual reality. As I cleared away the things in my room which were out of date and unused I felt amazing. I now stand on new ground, new space and I feel totally refreshed!

Are you living in a special haven? How does your bedroom look and feel to you? Do you feel happiness in being here, nestled in a warm, safe blanket? Or is it time for a change, a shift or even a complete rearrangement?

Make your special haven represent you, the true you. Do not compromise on something so important.

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My Special Haven today

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