Letting Go

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Ahhh to feel truly relaxed, at peace and free. To have this feeling fill you up and flow through you. That is just a wonder.

Letting Go is all about setting yourself free, softening, finding solace, a place of comfort and being released from any discomfort.

It is a brilliant tool to use in bringing more and more happiness to you. As you begin to let go in different areas of your life, you become closer connected with your core, your essence. You relearn how to breathe deeply, see the hearts around you and spend moments of pure happiness with loved ones.

Letting Go is such a valuable skill to nurture. And one to keep close to you on your life’s journey. It is precious. For the process of gradual release allows you to unwind, untie and discard anything in you and your life which is in ravels, knots, piles and perhaps has been for some time, accumulating dust.

As you begin to let go, you can stand back and see before your eyes how the world can change and look so different. This new softer, calmer perspective allows your breath to lengthen, muscles to relax and the stars to brighten above you.

No longer do you need to hold on to any anger bubbling inside you, hate spitting out of you, resentment festering, regret lingering, greed all-consuming, frustration revving. The tightness constricting you can relax, old thoughts can be blown away and peace can set in.

How can you Let Go? When you’re holding on with all your might to a world you know so well and have habituated – How can you refresh the moment, untangling what you no longer need?

How can you find such peace and tranquility, a release from caught-up emotions? How can you see the sunlight again after it’s been hiding for so long behind that cloud?

Not always an easy process. Taking longer for some than others. But totally possible and definitely worth the effort.

For each of us, the ravels, knots and piles vary. The things you want to let go of in your life are different from your partners, friends and family. Letting Go is a personal journey. So you need to think carefully about what it is that you are holding on to that restricts you from being truly free and the best, healthiest version of yourself. What is it that’s wasting your energy, enthusiasm and potential?

Ways of Letting Go: Close any arguments that have been going on for countless time, no matter who’s fault you think it is. Forgive everyone, no matter how much hurt you feel. Lose all blame, taking full responsibility for yourself. Do not victimise yourself, this only wastes time. Know that happiness is an inside job, the answers aren’t ‘out there’. Be grateful for everything you have, little and large. Make friends with your supposed enemies, see them as innocent. Speak with loving words to yourself, harsh words feed the pain. Seek the things that bring you lasting joy, lose the things that weigh you down. Look on the positive side of life, lose negativity. Stop trying to please everyone, it’s not possible or worthwhile. Drop the habits which leave you feeling bad, see them as old.

Forgiveness, Self-Responsibility, Inner Happiness, Gratitude, Friendship, Kindness, Compassion – these are your keys to peace. And unless you unlock the doors, you may never see how different it can be.

Throughout the process of Letting Go stay close to your breath. Breathe in everything that you feel, good or bad. Use your breath to steady yourself, stay in the present moment and slow things down for you to see clearly what’s really happening.

Breathe in. Let Go. Breathe out.

A Balancing Act

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Life is a Balancing Act. – Get the balance right and life feels great!

When you are in good balance with yourself and the world around you, you surely reap the benefits, feeling happier, more grounded, steady, focused, calm and clear-minded. Things just seem to run much smoother, work goes well, your energy levels are higher, people around you are smiling more, you reach your daily goals and you feel in a natural flow with life!

Whereas tipping the balance can leave you hanging too high or falling too low. You may feel under the weather, unsteady, anxious, too high, light-headed, wobbly, even depressed or ill. There may not appear a clear solution when you’re feeling like this. Sometimes it can feel as though the world is against you – but often in reality we are simply out of balance – something that can definitely be changed for the better!

It is a good idea to take time out from your day to day life and assess how things are going for you. If you run at full speed you can sometimes overlook feelings of imbalance, so make some quiet time for check-ins and ask yourself these questions – Are you feeling balanced? What areas of your life could do with a better balance? Job/Career, Relationships, Friends & Family, Fun & Recreation, Physical Environment, Finances, Health & Wellbeing? How could you bring this about? Be sure to allow space for answers to come. Notice how you are breathing and feeling as you do so.

When you are caught up in a whirlwind in your life, often the ups and downs help you to pinpoint where you are lacking balance. You may catch yourself acting unusually, perhaps symptoms of being off balance appear, or a friend or family member could be your wake up call. However you discover it, be thankful for this new understanding and start to look for ways of tilting the scales back to neutral. Otherwise things can go from bad to worse causing upset in a life which needn’t be so.

The great thing is there are lots of ways of bringing more balance into your life! And useful tools to help you feel steadily happy and stress-free! Identify what your priorities in life are, what things mean the most to you. This will help bring more focus, direction and balance in the things that you do. You will find it easier to say no to invitations and demands from others which steer you away from your own path. You then won’t feel burned out by trying to do too many things at once.

Writing things down is a very therapeutic way of creating clarity for yourself. Buy a diary and just put pen to paper with no expectations, just see what flows! – New ideas, plans and goals can formulate before your eyes! Set yourself realistic goals and go for them! Practice self-discipline and speak kindly to yourself at all times. Nourish your body and mind with things that leave you feeling balanced, whether it be hot, cool, spicy, sweet or salty, find out how you react to certain foods. Clean and tidy your living area, read your favourite book, take a break away, sit in the shade or sun, play your favourite sport, laugh out loud, take a long relaxing bath – do whatever you need to do to feel balanced.

For me, I know several key things I can do to help bring more balance in my life. My yoga practice, swimming, wearing cool colours, spending time with my family, eating cool and nutritious simple foods – lots of fruit and veg, being outdoors in nature, reading my favourite books, having a relaxing dinner with my best friends, meditating, teaching and being with children, taking a peaceful bath, writing in my diary, making cards and just sitting on my bed taking some ‘time for me’.

What things help you to feel more balanced? Is there something that you could do right now?

Let’s all try and bring more balance into our lives – Stay Balanced for a Healthy Life!

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Your Special Haven

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Imagine having a special haven. A beautiful special place all to yourself that you can do, be, say whatever you so choose. You can make your mark here and stay here time after time. This space is yours for the taking, the making. You can dream up, design and create beauty all around you. The walls and floors are canvases just yearning for your individual contribution, your essence to hit. The colours, themes, light and spaces are yet to be defined. Nobody else can enter your haven without permission. Nobody has access to your domain, your dwelling, your sanctuary, your retreat. Only you have the key.

Your haven is a place for everything you have, you are. A space to rest, think, lie, sit, stretch, breathe, act, play, write, draw, make, create, see, dream, eat, drink, sleep and just be you. However you are feeling you can come here and take time away from the world, time for yourself. Whether you are feeling restful, thoughtful, fearful, bashful or wonderful your haven is like a blanket ready to warm you up and hold you still whilst you replenish yourself before it’s time to leave.

How your haven looks and feels is down to you. As is the support and nourishment it offers you. As the creator you have full choice in it’s identity. You are responsible for every single area surrounding you. If things in your haven are out of place, messy, cluttered, dirty or uncared for only you can restore it back to it’s ideal state. If in your special place you feel flat, uninspired, unbalanced, trapped or unclear only you can help change these feelings.

We each have a special haven, whether we have fully embraced it or not. Our bedroom is just this! Our very own personal room, our blanket, our nest. What we receive from it depends greatly or what we give to it. If we choose to love it and use it carefully we will surely reap the benefits. If we plant the right seeds our garden will grow!

I love my bedroom! And I love my own personal place. I take great pride in keeping my space clear and tidy so I can feel clarity and space within me. I know well how my environment affects me, what goes on on the outside matters on the inside. I choose colors that resonate with me, whites, blues, yellows and purples to keep me calm, cool and balanced. I choose simplicity for peace of mind. I am a minimalist which helps me focus on things individually and carefully, and in the present. I make sure that I have space for yoga, to breathe, stretch, be on the wall, and lie down. I allow as much light in as possible to aid my vision. These are my personal choices for my haven.

This morning I did something that I do several times a year. I rearranged all of the furniture in my haven. From the moment I woke up I knew it was time for change in my close environment. This Spring has been a time of great change for me. More and more I am feeling aligned with my true self, my core, my values. I am refining my attention to the things that matter to me most. And in this process I am experiencing a great shift within me. This morning I wanted to express my internal emotional change in my physical visual reality. As I cleared away the things in my room which were out of date and unused I felt amazing. I now stand on new ground, new space and I feel totally refreshed!

Are you living in a special haven? How does your bedroom look and feel to you? Do you feel happiness in being here, nestled in a warm, safe blanket? Or is it time for a change, a shift or even a complete rearrangement?

Make your special haven represent you, the true you. Do not compromise on something so important.

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My Special Haven today

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